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T-Rex, Story Time, and Our First Real Talk about the Birth Mom

            J is three.  He knows he is adopted.  If you ask him whose tummy he grew in he can tell you.  “Melanie’s!” he’ll say, as if he’s discussing Disney World.  And if you ask whose tummy his baby brother, W, grew in you’ll get the same response.  “Melanie’s!”  We took J home from the…

Story of an Embrace: Hugging My Sons’ Birthmom

I can’t say she was a perfect stranger.  Not even the first time I met her.  I knew things about her strangers shouldn’t know.  I knew her medical history.  I’d never spoken to her before, heard her voice or looked her in the eye, but I knew she was allergic to shellfish and that she…

Why adopt? No-matter-what-love

I have been thinking about family a great deal lately. I wasn’t yet blogging when hubby and I went through our little slice of hell trying to build our family. Some of you were spared the gory details of the “how” of our family building— the ins and outs of infertility treatments and failed pregnancies….

Two under 2

We’re home with Baby Boy 2. The adoption went as smoothly as possible, and our newborn son is home safe, healthy, and…loud. There’s the bliss. Here’s the reality. Picture this: I am holding a screaming newborn while trying to fix a bottle with my free hand (don’t even talk to me about how adoptive moms…

Second Baby Neurosis

As we fast approach Baby 2’s due date (approx 4 weeks), he is taking form in my mind. Recently, after my husband and I finish nailing down this detail or that about the logistics of our new son’s placement, we end up revisiting the same ground. That is, how will Baby 2 affect this totally…

Yeah, what Tom Petty said…

So last week I wrote on a good day. In keeping with the name of this blog—the “honest” part, at least—today I’m going to write on a bad day. I’m freaking out. It happens. Actually it happens to me a good bit. I’m told by my psychologist friends that “type A” people are exceedingly focused,…

Preparing For Baby

While we’re talking adoption, I thought I’d share some of the stickier points of the process with you. You know, misery loves company. About a year ago, I did a couple of posts about assumptions and misconceptions concerning adoption (see “adoption” links on the right side of the page). While I stand by what I…