J is three. He knows he is adopted. If you ask him whose tummy he grew in he can tell you. “Melanie’s!” he’ll say, as if he’s discussing Disney World. And if you ask whose tummy his baby brother, W, grew in you’ll get the same response. “Melanie’s!” We took J home from the…
Category Archives: adoption stereotypes
Story of an Embrace: Hugging My Sons’ Birthmom
I can’t say she was a perfect stranger. Not even the first time I met her. I knew things about her strangers shouldn’t know. I knew her medical history. I’d never spoken to her before, heard her voice or looked her in the eye, but I knew she was allergic to shellfish and that she…
Why adopt? No-matter-what-love
I have been thinking about family a great deal lately. I wasn’t yet blogging when hubby and I went through our little slice of hell trying to build our family. Some of you were spared the gory details of the “how” of our family building— the ins and outs of infertility treatments and failed pregnancies….
Preparing For Baby
While we’re talking adoption, I thought I’d share some of the stickier points of the process with you. You know, misery loves company. About a year ago, I did a couple of posts about assumptions and misconceptions concerning adoption (see “adoption” links on the right side of the page). While I stand by what I…
A Transracial Adoptee’s Bill of Rights
An important reminder for those of us white parents of black/ biracial/ multiracial kids. Please take a look. Also, those of you who are friends of our transracial families, note that we are forever changed by our good fortune to parent these children, and help us be as we would like to be– real, and…
Boycott “Orphan”–Help Stop Negative Adoption Stereotypes
On July 24th Dark Castle Entertainment along with Warner Bros is releasing a horror film called Orphan based on a psychopathic adopted child. You can see the pitifully ignoble trailer here. Although I haven’t seen the script, its apparent from the trailer, where an eerily pale, adopted little girl deadpans, “it must be hard to…
