Category Archives: Adoption

T-Rex, Story Time, and Our First Real Talk about the Birth Mom

            J is three.  He knows he is adopted.  If you ask him whose tummy he grew in he can tell you.  “Melanie’s!” he’ll say, as if he’s discussing Disney World.  And if you ask whose tummy his baby brother, W, grew in you’ll get the same response.  “Melanie’s!”  We took J home from the…

Meeting my Sons’ Birthmother for the Third Time: The Pain of Not Adopting

Her name is Melanie and looking back, I see what little I understood about how enmeshed our lives would become when my husband and I adopted her baby boy in 2008 . I foolishly thought our paths had met again only briefly, in February 2010, when I called our adoption agency to see if Melanie…

Fiction: Yo Mama

This is from a writing website called The Red Dress Club, which links up writers’ blogs, and provides a weekly writing prompt.  This week’s prompt was to write a piece in which a character was told a joke and the character cried.  The post had to be max. 600 characters. I clutch her photo in…

The Bottomless Love of the Two-Timing Hussy

Getting to know a new baby is like falling in love. With your first baby, like your first love, you fall fast and hard, oblivious to any faults or limitations your child may have. Your heart explodes and leaves you exhausted, not just from the sleeplessness, but from the sheer force of emotion coursing through…