Category Archives: domestic adoption

Story of an Embrace: Hugging My Sons’ Birthmom

I can’t say she was a perfect stranger.  Not even the first time I met her.  I knew things about her strangers shouldn’t know.  I knew her medical history.  I’d never spoken to her before, heard her voice or looked her in the eye, but I knew she was allergic to shellfish and that she…

Second Baby Neurosis

As we fast approach Baby 2’s due date (approx 4 weeks), he is taking form in my mind. Recently, after my husband and I finish nailing down this detail or that about the logistics of our new son’s placement, we end up revisiting the same ground. That is, how will Baby 2 affect this totally…

Yeah, what Tom Petty said…

So last week I wrote on a good day. In keeping with the name of this blog—the “honest” part, at least—today I’m going to write on a bad day. I’m freaking out. It happens. Actually it happens to me a good bit. I’m told by my psychologist friends that “type A” people are exceedingly focused,…

Preparing For Baby

While we’re talking adoption, I thought I’d share some of the stickier points of the process with you. You know, misery loves company. About a year ago, I did a couple of posts about assumptions and misconceptions concerning adoption (see “adoption” links on the right side of the page). While I stand by what I…

Adoption Transfiguration

(Although adorable, this is NOT a photo of our child.) I’m not sure how to begin this post. I thought about being dramatic: We’re expecting in April! I considered a more thoughtful approach: After much thought and prayer… I tossed around the idea of opening with a joke: Comedian: Did you hear about the Worleys?…

What really chaps my butt and other bees in my bonnet– another adoptive parent rant

“Oh you adopted! How wonderful! Lance and I have always wanted to adopt when we’re finished having children,” Angelina squealed as she kissed me on both cheeks and slopped a little of her wine on my comfortable shoes. “Yes,” I say, wiping off the kiss and the wine, “And I’ve always wanted to be a…